As I wake up this morning I am still thinking about Robin Williams (RIP). I cannot emphasize this enough – be kind to people. You don’t know what they are going through. You only saw or heard that one thing that made you write that person off in a hurry. Maybe you heard or saw more than one instance. How do you know that’s how that person really is? If you knew the whole story perhaps you would treat them differently. I often work with abused women and children and I have seen the same thing in work places, in social circles and in families. People are quick to judge and mistreat others.
Don’t intentionally hurt people either with your words or your actions. You could be the last person they talk to. Be the one that gave them hope, a smile, a hug, a kind word. Don’t be the one to push them over the edge. Love them and accept them. If you cannot best to let it go instead of going around fueling the situation by talking about them. These things have a way of getting back to the person involved and could crush them if they were making an effort to change their ways.
You may feel like you were kind to that person but they still treated you badly. Try to remember an act of kindness does have the power to transform people. You may or may not be around to see the changes, maybe it happened right away or took several years, whatever it is, it changes people. Just like people don’t forget an unkind word they don’t forget an act of loving kindness. In their darkest moment, I hope your loving compassion comes to their mind and gives them the courage to change and the strength to carry on.
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