Oh Lordy, trouble so hard, Oh Lordy, trouble so hard, don’t nobody know my troubles but God- Lyrics from Moby’s song “Natural Blues”
This week on Monday our guest speaker at life skills class was Moby, real name Richard Melville Hall. I have never met someone so famous ever from the entertainment industry. When I saw him I was immediately struck by his simplicity, his gentle manners and soft spoken voice. He seemed very calm and observant. His introduction blew us away. He has sold over 20 million albums worldwide. He is a winner of several music awards and has co written and produced music for Michael Jackson, David Bowie Metallica, Guns N Roses etc.
But when he came to our class instead of talking about all his success and fame he talked about his humble beginnings, poverty and how music helped him get through his struggles. I came away enriched by the wealth of wisdom he shared with the mentors and students on how to be successful, how to get through struggles and life in general
1. Do what you love- if your goal is to be successful quickly sure you can be successful but it will be short lived. In order to be successful for a long period of time you should do what you love and success will follow. Its not going to be easy because you may not be successful right away, you may get rejected, people may write you off, you may not get the right break but as long as you pursue your passion at some point you will become successful because you are good at what you do
2. Get an education- Success comes with responsibility. A lot of it. You have to be prepared to understand legalities, finances etc. so you can make informed decisions. Yes you can hire other people to do the work for you but you cannot blindly rely on others to make your decisions for you. Education is the key to not only be successful but to sustain it long after your moment under the spot light has come and gone.
3. Figure out the things you shouldn’t do- Watch the people around you. Their lives, their mistakes and realize that you don’t want to make the same mistakes they made. Once you figure out all the things you don’t want to do its easy to know what you should be doing. People, situations, life all these things are constantly teaching you something. Be willing to watch and learn.
4. Don’t give up- You may not get the right opportunity on first try or hundredth try or two hundredth try. It doesn’t matter how many times you have been rejected or failed to land the right job. You still go and knock on doors. Keep knocking until the right door opens for you.
5. Don’t get bitter and hateful- Don’t take failure personally. It is easy to get bitter when people say nasty things or just outright reject you. Its easy to get hateful when despite your best efforts and all the hard work you are still stuck in a rut and all the hard work is not paying off. Especially when others you know are doing well but you are not. It can be difficult to talk about your struggles when others don’t seem to understand because they have never experienced the pain and the hardship you have. Don’t let these things distract you from your goal. Don’t lose interest in the things you love to do.
6. Keep moving- Through all your struggles, failures, hardships the best thing you can do is to just keep moving forward and not get stuck. Once you get through it and look back you will realize it wasn’t bad after all. Even if it was, its ok because it helped you get where you were supposed to be. You will realize somehow that’s how everything was supposed to happen so you could be the person you are today
7. Have a hero- Read about other successful people, get to know their story, their struggles and how they overcame them. You will realize everyone goes through struggles but it is their strength, courage, passion, determination, patience and perseverance that helped them get through those dark moments.
8. Find a safe space- Find a place where you can go to when you are feeling down just so you have a safe space where you can be by yourself and reflect on things. A place that allows you to heal. Maybe the beach or your neighborhood where you can go for walks or the park. A place where you feel welcome to just let it all go, center yourself and renew your spirit.
Here is a great quote from Moby,”Whenever I have had success I never learn from it. Success usually breed a degree of hubris. When you fail, that’s when you learn”
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