Unexpected Blessings

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Nov 18th has been very special day for me. I was presented a Women to Watch Award by Illinois CPA Society. I am in complete awe and very humbled by the recognition.

Early this year my boss said she would like to nominate me for this award. I was busy planning my wedding at the time and didnt think of it much. When I got back I was shocked to see the email that I was one of the winners. It took my breath away.

Who knew that me a survivor of Domestic Violence, someone who was told by my abuser that I was not worthy enough would be one day respected and recognized for her efforts by the entire accounting profession as a leader for her contributions to the community, the profession and to the organization she worked with.

Few years ago, if someone told me 10 years later I would be recognized as a Women to Watch and considered a leader I wouldnt have believed them. 10 years ago I had just walked out of an abusive relationship and was trying to get back on my feet.I never thought DV would happen to me but it did. It took a lot of courage to walk away from my abuser but I did it. I moved to a different country to go to school and started working to support myself soon after graudating with a Masters degree. The next 7-8 years I spent working hard, rebuilding my life, focusing on my career and healing myself. Along the way I was actively involved in helping my local community in whatever way I could.

As a survivor of domestic violence, it is incredible how far I have come.  Since 2011, I started working with survivors of DV and later with homeless kids, sharing my story and empowering them in any way I could. After several years of working directly with survivors of DV I felt ready to take my efforts a step further. I am happy to share that I recently became a board member of a nonprofit called Between Friends hoping I can make a bigger impact in my local community and be of service to the organization in preventing domestic violence.

God has blessed me not only with recognition professionlly but also gave me a second chance at love by bringing my wonderful husband into my life. As if these werent enough to overwhelm me He found a bigger role for me to play in the community as a Board member at Between friends. Yesterday when I was on our way back home from the award ceremony with my wonderful in laws in the taxi, the driver  mentioned he was the music director at his church. He was  playing a gospel song that was something to this effect”, He will wipe our eyes dry and take us up to His side.And forever we will be His.Singing, “Blessing and honor and glory and power forever to our God.”.

I took that as a sign that God was making his presence known and telling me I am with you in everything and I have you in the palm of my hand. I will lift you higher than you could possibly imagine.

Encouraged by the turn of events I decided to take a brave step and start a campaign to raise money for Domestic violence for Between Friends. I want everyone who is or has experienced Domestic Violence to have opportunities that were available to me.

Please take a few minutes to review the link and donate to support the cause. Every dollar matters. Help break the cylce BE THE CHANGE


God bless

Copyright 2016 Vani Murthy


Education-My mom’s precious gift to her daughters

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“[Girls] know that education is their only path to self-sufficiency.  It is their only chance to shape their own fate rather than having the limits of their lives dictated to them by others.”-Michelle Obama

Someone asked me yesterday,”What is the best advice I have ever received?” and I said,”It wasn’t really advice but just something my mom said that has stayed with me forever. Ever since we were little, me and my sisters have often heard my mom say,”The only thing I can give you, which will truly stay with you, is education. Don’t focus on money because money comes and goes. Focus on education because no one can take that away from you. Besides once you have education money will follow.”

My mom strongly believes that education will give girls the confidence they need to stand up on their own, have their voice heard, make them strong and self reliant. It will give them the ability to think for themselves, analyze and make their own choices. My mom was one of the first few generations of young women that went to college when free education was made available to young women by the then Prime Minister to encourage them to go to college. My mom still remembers how excited she would be to hear about all the different classes her elder sister was taking and how she dreamed of following in her sisters foot steps and wanted to read more and do better than her sister.

But all her dreams were dashed when her parents decided to marry her at the age of 19. She cried, begged and pleaded with the elders in the family but nothing worked. She was told,”What is this madness about wanting to get an education. You are lucky you are getting married before your sister. Stop this nonsense and be a good girl.You need to focus on your future. It is time for you to have a family. That is what you should be doing because you are a girl. What else do you need?”. My grandma supported and fought for my mom but she didn’t win because women had no say in the family and according to the men women lacked the ability to know what was good for them. And so it was decided against the wishes of my mom and my grand ma that she was to marry my dad and settle down in a place far away from home, in a city that spoke a different language and had a different culture. At my moms wedding my grandma cried hard not only because her daughter was going far away but because she was crushed with guilt and disappointment for letting her down.

Lucky for my mom, my dad turned out to be a good guy. He couldn’t bear to see her cry and was devastated when he learnt about what happened. So although he would terribly miss her he sent her back to my grandma’s so she could pursue and finish school. He promised to write to her and come visit whenever he could but asked her to focus on her school work and not worry about a thing. So off she went to school …proud that she was one of the  handful of young women who come back to school after marriage. But alas it wasn’t meant to be. She had my elder sister when her final exams were going on. Unfortunately she couldn’t take the test and so she did not graduate. But her dream stayed in her heart.

And she vowed that she would never let that happen to her daughter. As fate would have it she had 3 daughters and so her drive was even more stronger to make sure her daughters grew up to be educated, confident, independent and self reliant women who were not afraid to have their voices heard. As an adult I understand why she pushed us so hard. Education has truly saved my life. It has made me everything that my mom hoped it would and more. It gave me the courage to face and overcome many obstacles because in my heart I always heard my mom say”no one can take education from you”. It gave me strength and the quiet confidence that no matter what happens I am going to be okay.

It gave me the courage to walk away from an abusive relationship and start over again. It gave me the courage to choose to live abroad and pursue my dreams in a new place. It opened my eyes to a whole new world and many possibilities. It brought me opportunities even during one of the toughest recessions this country has faced and helped me keep my dream alive despite immigration hurdles. It helped me to reach out to women who survived abusive relationships and to homeless children and mentor them. I was able to stay in this country long enough to meet my wonderful husband and get a second chance at experiencing a loving and healthy relationship. It brought me recognition by being this years recipient of Women to Watch Award under the emerging leader category.It has made me who I am.And I am glad my mom is here to see this. Although my dad passed away when I was young I know he is beaming with pride as he watches over me.

As for my mom  her daughters have not only fulfilled her dream but have soared beyond her wildest expectations as all her daughters have earned  double masters, are successful in their professions, in leadership roles, recognized as talented and accomplished women all of them married to wonderful men who love and respect them, encourage and support them to scale new heights.

Thank you mom for being a great role model and making us who we are today. Thank you for giving us the greatest gift ever – the gift of education thereby permanently empowering us to believe in ourselves, to be who we are and to never stop soaring.

We love you very much.

Copyright Vani Murthy 2016

A day of glory


“God I am turning this situation over to you. I am not going to let this steal my joy. I know you are in control. And at the right time, I believe you will not only turn it around, but you will bring me out better off than I was before”- from the book “The purpose driven life”.

In the summer of 2011 I was going through some difficult times. I felt gloomy all the time and hopeless. One of my dear friends suggested I read the book “The purpose driven life” by pastor Rick Warren. It is the best book I have read to date. It helped me get my hope back and changed the way I looked at things. It inspired me so much that I decided to laminate some key quotes from the book and make them into little cards to keep in my purse so I could read them whenever I needed a dose of inspiration. But somehow I wasn’t satisfied with the idea of keeping these precious jewels to myself. I felt compelled to  make multiple copies of it to share with close friends and family. I also felt I needed to keep some extra copies on hand so I can give them to anyone that needed them.

So on a hot Sunday afternoon I braved the SoCal sun and went to the nearest Fedex Kinkos. When I was laminating the print outs, I made the mistake of putting each page into single plastic sheets to laminate. Once I finished my first set I realized that it was going to be expensive. I thought I should stop and not make so many cards. But I had 8 people on my list that I wanted to give these to.I thought,”Well maybe I should give these to some people and not all of them”. Then I cancelled that thought and said ” God I am going to continue with this. I am not going to think about the money. You figure out how You are going to pay for this. I want these people to get Your message. And I am not stopping because of money.”

After I finished laminating I went over to the main counter to pay for it. There were three cash registers with three staff members at the checkout in the front of the store. However this young lady who was at one of the registers left it , came to me and said “lets go to the other side over there and I will help you check these out”. I thought it was odd she was asking me to go to this other register when there was no one ahead of me. Usually the store is very busy and most of the times there is some waiting time. But not on this day. A little unhappy that she was making me walk all the way across to the area I was at a few minutes ago with a big pile of laminated copies in my hand I wondered why she couldn’t have just helped me at the register she was at.

Once we were there she asked me how many lamination’s I had. I said, “48”. She looked at me and asked, “Did you use a single sheet for each card?.” I said “yes”. The girl said” its going to be very expensive you know. you could have just cut the paper and put 6 into one plastic sheet.” I said ” well I didn’t think of it. Its okay. I will be careful next time.” She picked up the calculator and started calculating. I thought,” Ok here it comes!”

Instead she looks at me and said- ” I am going to assume 6 of these could fit in one sheet and I am going to charge you only 27 dollars including taxes. If I charge you regular price it is going to cost you more than 90 dollars. It is too expensive. I don’t want you to pay so much. Please don’t tell anyone I am doing this. I will get into trouble. I am doing this only for you. So please don’t tell anyone and get me into trouble.”I couldn’t believe what I just heard. I got goose bumps and tears in my eyes as I thanked her and I said “Do you know what I just printed? Prayer cards.  Thank you.”

I paid for the cards and left . Once I was in my car I sat there completely still staring at the package in my hand. If the girl had stayed at the register along with her other coworkers she would have never given me a discount. Something had made her move away from that area and go to the register where there was no one around us. I was overcome with emotion as I felt His presence in that moment and realized what He had done for me. I must have cried for a few minutes but once I stopped I felt so peaceful and calm it is just hard to describe that feeling. I left the parking lot feeling  God wanted me to do this and was letting me know that I have His blessings.

“Today is a day of such happiness, such glory a day not lit by the sun but by the Original Light where you abide hidden in Eternity’-Rumi

Copyright Vani Murthy

Mercy in disguise

What if Your healing comes through tears? What if a thousand sleepless nights are what it takes to know You’re near? What if trials of this life are Your mercies in disguise?- lyrics from the song Blessings by Laura Story

Recently I read a story in the media about Fred Barley, a 19 year old a homeless youth, who was discovered by the police sleeping in a tent outside the gates of his college last weekend. He told the officers he rode his younger brother’s bicycle six hours so he could get to college to register for his second semester classes. One thing led to another and the young man was temporarily put up at a motel, his story went viral and a few community members came forward to lend a helping hand by offering him a job, helped raise money, offer him some moral support and many families invited him to come spend time with them so he is not alone. I have been following his story on Facebook page and it was heart warming to see that in less than 4 days nearly $180,000 had been raised and there was an outpouring of support, both financial and emotional, from complete strangers for this young man.

I was listening to Lisa Osteen yesterday on having a Victory mindset. She lovingly and kindly reminded her audience that when we pray and nothing seems to be happening we should not lose faith. We need to remember that God is working for us behind the scenes. There are many angels fighting for us to bring us what God has ordained for us. All we need to do is never give up and wait in peace knowing God loves us, is working for us and watching over us at all times. It reminded me of Fred Barley. I am sure he didn’t realize his life would change dramatically when he set out on his brother’s bicycle that morning. Not only was he blessed but others who joined in have also been blessed. His story has inspired and given hope to many and also provided an opportunity for some to share their stories and keep spreading the message of love, hope and faith along with Fred. What an incredible testimony to God’s love and protection.

Needless to say his story has helped me dispel some doubts I have had these past few days and strengthened my faith in God as my promise keeper, redeemer and way maker. Amen.

2016 Copyright Vani Murthy



Heavy dark clouds hovering above

Waiting to unleash rain upon all

Water underneath reflecting your intent

Steel grey waves shimmering and dancing in the wind

A silver lining somewhere in the distance

Mild rays of sunlight bursting through the darkness

A magical display of darkness and light

Both up above and the water underneath the skies

My heart is  full of joy

As I watched in awe

Mesmerized by the beautiful sight

Copyright 2016 Vani Murthy